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Victim or Survivor

Before we dig in, are you a victim or survivor, or do you know anyone who might fall into one of the categories? I did a thing in 2020, I studied the resilience of some women in Southwest Nigeria who were survivors of Intimate Partner Violence/Domestic Violence. I say survivors because they moved from beingContinue reading “Victim or Survivor”

The Struggle is Real

I have a lot I want to say and here is a warning before you dig into reading, I will be saying a lot in part. This is because the best way to put out my idea is through my podcast “Metamorphosis with Tobi” or on my blog. Just because it is still Black historyContinue reading “The Struggle is Real”

Black History Month is Here

This post was originally published in February 2021 and has been updated. Black history month gives you an opportunity to understand black history, what it used to be, what it means now, racism, slavery, and black achievement. To understand the present, it is vital that we engage ourselves with history. Importantly, this year’s theme isContinue reading “Black History Month is Here”

Book Review of “Nearly All The Men In Lagos Are Mad”

It is no news that Lagos is for the crazy at heart, just as a friend of mine sums it, it is a dramatic state in all areas. This book is a collection of twelve short stories about the unique form of madness that goes on in Lagos especially among men. It tells relatable storiesContinue reading “Book Review of “Nearly All The Men In Lagos Are Mad””

What Do You Know about Experiencing Violence?

As a master’s student, I was convinced that I wanted to research into the lives of women who had or are experiencing intimate partner violence or domestic violence. You may be wondering why such an area despite the numerous grey research areas available. I say boldly that my personal experiences and intellectual interests captivated me.Continue reading “What Do You Know about Experiencing Violence?”


Review of ‘Notes on Grief’ by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie In many Western cultures, particularly Great Britain and in the United States, the grief memoir remains a sought-after genre due to its form of public morning and occasional self-therapy. Here, the bereaved is in search of meaning amid pain or hurt. The kind of pain thatContinue reading “Grieving”

Anger as a Response to Intimate Partner Violence in Nigeria {Part 2}

This menace should be attended to because women, especially through their resiliency and hidden strength, can positively affect the growth and development of the nation and the world at large. They are homemakers, custodians of social, cultural, political, and inherent values of the society, and sustainable change is best achieved through them. Without the involvementContinue reading “Anger as a Response to Intimate Partner Violence in Nigeria {Part 2}”

Anger as a Response to Intimate Partner Violence in Nigeria {Part 1}

I am angry, yet unapologetic about it. We tend to think of anger as an abominable, negative emotion, but research finds that anger is not bereft of positive sides. My anger is a motivating force in the form of positive energy geared towards fighting against all forms of intimate partner violence. Domestic violence is aContinue reading “Anger as a Response to Intimate Partner Violence in Nigeria {Part 1}”

My Review of Eviatar Zerubavel’s “Taken for Granted: The Remarkable Power of the Unremarkable”

In this appealing and perceptive book, Eviatar Zerubavel explains how the words we use and do not use reinforce dominant cultural norms. For instance, when we mark “the best female basketball player,” “Black Entertainment Television network,” and “family man,” but leave their counterparts unmarked, we thereby assume them to be ordinary by default. What weContinue reading “My Review of Eviatar Zerubavel’s “Taken for Granted: The Remarkable Power of the Unremarkable””

Forget Me Not: The Callings of Childhood Experiences

It is no news that children would always want to behave like children and as such they anger their parents. Although that is not our focus for today. We are walking through thoughts on parents. It is noteworthy that my writings spring out of personal experiences and the experiences of people close to me. ThisContinue reading “Forget Me Not: The Callings of Childhood Experiences”